I ended an affair with my boss, now he's being mean. What can I do?
I had a consensual affair with my boss, but I’ve broken up with him. Now he’s treating me poorly around the office, making it impossible for me to stay. Do I leave, or report him? I still care about him.
And this is just one of the many reasons why companies frown upon bosses having intimate relationships with anyone on their staff.
This relationship was bad judgment on his part — and not great on yours — but what’s worse is for him to treat you poorly now.
Depending on your company’s policy you both could be in trouble for having the relationship.
He certainly can, and should lose his job over how he’s mistreating you now.
Holding him accountable for this, regardless of the consequences to you, would be the honorable thing to do so that he doesn’t have a relationship with another subordinate or mistreat anyone.
Could you transfer and not have to interact with him?
If you decide to put it all behind you and leave, I would understand that too.
It’s messy, but despite your feelings for him, he is harassing you and you have to do what is best for you, and not worry about him.
My boss requires us to be on camera during Zoom meetings, but I find it stressful and I don’t always want to be camera-ready — that’s one of the benefits of working remotely. Can I be forced to comply?
No one can literally force you to be on camera, but it is a video platform meant to engage with people. Getty Images/iStockphoto
Technically, no one can literally force you to be on camera, but they can fire you for not complying.
Everyone understands the occasional times when being on camera is not convenient, but it is a video platform meant to engage with people, see their faces and reactions, otherwise it’s a phone call.
The benefit of working remotely is that you get to work remotely — not to work in your jammies with bedhead. (OK, on occasion some of us may do that — but rarely!)
It’s difficult enough to build and maintain relationships and culture when everyone is remote, and if we also don’t see each other, laugh, smile and react, then work and everyone ultimately suffers.
Unless you really don’t like your boss and colleagues, but that’s a whole different issue.
Gregory Giangrande has over 25 years of experience as a chief human resources executive. Hear Greg Wed. at 9:35 a.m. on iHeartRadio 710 WOR with Len Berman and Michael Riedel. Email: GoToGreg@NYPost.com. Follow: GoToGreg.com and on Twitter: @GregGiangrande
Source: New York Post
